Women and Sex - Lesson #1

What is your goal when it's come to women? Is it to become a husband or to be a bachelor? If I hold a position that if a woman goes through a certain phase of life where they are sexually active with multiple partners, then she will always be defined by that phase of her life when she's ready to settle down, I hold the same position when it comes to men. Just because the man is the leader of the household, it doesn't mean that men and women aren't created equal. If we hold this position with one, we have to hold it with the other.

Men can't go through this same phase of being sexually active with multiple partners and then settle down later, thinking that this phase just disappears. Whether it's because it changes your mentality, affects your health, or you find out about a child, once you go through this phase, it will affect your life down the road.

It's best to decide while you are young, what kind of man you want to be. Do you want to be a husband or a bachelor? In an article by Nicholas H. Wolfinger "Does Sexual History Affect Marital Happiness?" a study was done on the correlation between the number of partners and their chances of being "very happy" in marriage from 1989 to 2016.

Looking at the first chart by the General Social Survey, we can see that the percentage of married adults with only one partner has decreased significantly from the 1910's to the 1980's. Now, using that information to look at the next image, Table 1, we see the effect of multiple partners on women's chance of a happy marriage.

A majority of women have more than one partner, which automatically puts their chance of having a happy marriage 4% lower than those with only one partner. If you look at the chart, you can see that their percentage chance goes up in the categories for those with 3 partners, 5 partners, and 11-20 partners. Looking at Table 2, the men's chart, they also go up in the categories of 6-10 partners and 21+ partners. Now you might be thinking that these are the numbers to shoot for, if I can hit the 6-10 partners range, or get over 20, then I'm still good. No, it might be up from the number of partners in the category before it, it's still lower than those with only 1 partner.

Remember what I said at the beginning of this section too, it might not be a mental affect that it has on you, it could have affects on your health, or you life from finding out you had a child with a previous partner.

What do you want to be? A husband or a bachelor? A bachelor can't be the patriarch. The Patriarch has to be committed to his wife and family. A bachelor has no wife and while he might have kids from a previous partner, he's not in their lives as much as a patriarch needs to be. A patriarch needs to be committed to his wife and family and the best chance that the patriarch has at making his marriage strong, is with one partner, but we'll have more on that in coming sections.

Like I said, it is best to decide what kind of man you want to be while you're young. Do you want to be sexually active with multiple partners, or do you want to be committed to your wife.