Lesson #4

For any women that have found us, I've seen arguments on the internet about men that want to bring back the nuclear family, are wanting to bring back the days of men assaulting their wives. That is far from what I want and far from what I want to encourage young men to do. A man's wife is to be honored and respected above all else.

When I say bring back the Patriarchy, my intention is to bring back men that are leaders, they have strong character, are present for the family, and providers. They are to be the head of the household, but understand that their wife is their partner. There will be times where the wife will have to submit to their husband and trust him, but the man needs to understand that he needs to take her opinions seriously. His decisions don't affect just him anymore. They will benefit together when things are prosperous, but she will also have to share the consequences of when he makes the wrong decision. In the end, be comfortable with the decision that you make, but make sure that you do what is best for the family, not just you.

When it comes down to it, the Patriarchy is a system where the man is considered the head of the household. The man is responsible for leading the household, providing for them, and making decisions for the family. It all starts with the man. If the man can forge a strong marriage with his wife, they will create a strong household. If they have a strong household, they will have strong sons and daughters.

In this system, the husband and wife are equal, but different. They are one unit and they share responsibilities. Some of these responsibilities will naturally fall to the husband and others to the wife, while some of them are to be decided on together on who's responsible for them. Both the husband and the wife have to fulfill their responsibilities in order for the unit to be successful.

With this, one of the women's roles is to follow their husband, which I understand, will be a controversial topic among many men and women today. In the patriarchy, the man has to step up and be the leader that his family needs. He has to be able to lead and make decisions for the family without looking out for his own interests first. He has to be able to set aside his own wants and desires for the greater good of his wife (and children). Women, you have to be able to trust that whoever you marry is able to make decisions with your best interest at heart and not his own. Men, you have to be able and willing to do this. Women, if you don't trust your partner in this, you have to consider whether he's the one for you. Men, if you're not willing to do this, you have to understand that you are not ready for this responsibility, or this relationship.

The Patriarchy isn't about the men having complete control, the Patriarchy is about having strong men leading their families in a way to help the family succeed.

With all the responsibilities, why would anyone want to be the Patriarch? Why would I want to bring back a system that throws the weight of the family on one person's shoulders? It goes back to the beginning of this section. Men are the happiest when they feel the most useful. The more helpful that you are as a man, the more satisfied that you feel with yourself. It's important to keep in mind, that as the Patriarch, it's not just you fulfilling everything. As you teach the other men in the family and as they learn, they become more and more self-sufficient. You're responsible for training the next generation in your family and if you have a son, what could be the next Patriarch. It's important that you pick the right spouse, because they are going to be your partner and support system throughout all of this. You want to pick someone that will work with you and support you, not someone that will hinder you or work against you. It's a difficult job for sure, but with the right spouse, you can get through anything.

In the Patriarchy, your focus is becoming the man that your family needs, focuses on improving the family, and teaching your children. By focusing on the family, it makes the family unit stronger. As the family units become stronger, then society will become stronger as well. In the end, by focusing on the family, it improves society.