Journey to the Patriarchy is inspired by my Grandfather. Growing up, he was always the rock of the family, and he still is. Whenever one of us needed help with something or needed advice, he was the one that we turned to. As my Grandparents got older and it became more evident that time was taking its toll on my Grandfather, I knew that there would come a time when someone else would take his place as the Patriarch of our family. At the time, the logical choice would have been my Grandfather's son, my Uncle.

As time went on, we experienced the loss of my Uncle very suddenly. This left a gaping hole not just in our family, but we also lost the logical choice for the next Patriarch of the family. Generally, the Patriarch is someone with experience and miles under his belt. Knowledge comes with time and experience. When we lost my Uncle, we lost twenty plus years of experience and knowledge before the next oldest male with a presence in the family, myself. Needless to say, that felt like a huge weight on my shoulders. I felt in no way ready and feared that I was not adequately prepared to even consider stepping into that role.

As my family and grandparents began to turn to me more and more for advice and assistance, my Grandpa said something to me that I don't think I'll ever forget, "whoever I would have gone to for help before, you're it now". It was a huge compliment to who I wanted to be and helped me feel like I was on the way to becoming the man that my family needed. Ultimately, I started Journey to the Patriarchy as a way of sharing what I learn about becoming a better man and a leader with others. You may ask, what is the standard that I measure these qualities against? Is it the Alpha Male Influencers? Political Leaders? Historical figures? The standard that I will be measuring against, is my Grandfather himself.

As a young man myself that is looking at stepping into the position of leadership in the family a lot earlier than I was expecting, I want to provide an informal space to share the lessons that I learn along the way, as well as providing any resources that I use. No matter what stage of life you are in, life can feel pretty daunting at times and it can be hard feeling like you don't know what to do or where to turn to for help. Rest assured, you are not the only man that has ever felt that way, nor will you be the last.

I will be very open and honest as I share not just the lessons that I learn and the resources that I use, but also the mistakes that I make. My goal is that we can all improve and become the man that we are meant to be. Learn from my mistakes and heed the lessons that I learn along the way. While this tool is meant to be primarily for young men or men that are wanting to change how they've been living, for the women that find this page, you can use what I provide here as a measure of what kind of man you want to look for in the future.

Forewarning, Journey to the Patriarchy is not going to turn you into an Alpha Male or a Sigma Male. The goal of Journey to the Patriarchy is to make you the Patriarchal figure that your family needs, not to make you superior to others. As you mature and build your character into a Patriarch, you will find that you become superior to your former self and that you commit to continually improving yourself and focusing on the family. The Alpha Male and Sigma Male mentalities don't have a place as the leader of the family with their "dominating" personality and their "Lone Wolf" mentality. There is a place for both of these ideologies, but it's not as a leader of the family.

Under the  Lesson Plan tab, I have Lessons that are geared primarily towards getting started and tackling every day occurrences, and other lessons that are geared towards more specific topics under the Topical Studies section. As I add more lessons to each, I hope that you find it useful and that you take the same comfort in growing with knowledge and maturity that I have.